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One child prioritising friends over all else and another just starting at college stir memories within.

I feel so daft now, recalling my own behaviour at that juncture of my life, so incredibly immature as I was.

For young men, relationships seem all-important then. Peer relationships, which bolster their sense of self-worth, and burgeoning semi-romantic pursuits.

Unbeknownst to them, though, most of the studious young ladies in their presence have more ambitious plans.

They’re laying foundations for the future. These studies will take them to university, they believe, and after that, into stable careers and fruitful lives.

So, of course, they do not care for the unwanted attention of a fool incapable of reading the room, so enamoured by their eyes.

Now, we occupy the position our parents once did, hopelessly trying to offer guidance and advice to our own children.

To a young man intent on repeating my mistakes. To a daughter settling into college anew, forging new friendships in unfamiliar surroundings.

I couldn’t see it at the time: how unwelcome the unwanted attention. It took years, in fact. Recalling it now, I feel so daft.

Don’t repeat my mistakes, kids. Set yourself solid foundations. Believe me when I say, I know!